In their romantic relationships, INTPs may exhibit qualities that their partners find endearing. INTPs are always generating ideas, but rarely do they get to fully explore their more romantic ideations. When they finally do meet someone with whom they are romantically synced, INTPs show themselves to be enthusiastic and cheeky, using flirty word play and clever innuendos to charm the socks off the object of their affection.
This is not to say that relationships come easily to an INTP – they are rather shy and private individuals, and the prospect of putting themselves out there and meeting new people, at the risk of rejection and humiliation is not an apealing proposition. An INTP will likely opt instead to leave a trail of crumbs for a potential partner, inviting them to initiate contact and thus allow the INTP to commit to the relationship as an act of reciprocation rather than bravado.
INTPs take their relationships seriously from the very outset. They are very aware of the challenges presented in getting to know a new person and in dealing with or avoiding the potential pitfalls that sink many relation-ships. The INTP prefers to approach problems with directness and candor. For them, honest and clear communication is integral to cultivating the mutual understanding necessary for a healthy and successful relationship.
INTPs’ are low maintenance individuals who do not require or care much for in the way gifts, surprises or expensive material expressions of love. Their daily needs prove remarkably simple and they are all fairly easy to please. Their partner however may very much need these tokens of affection, and it won’t even occur to an INTP to oblige them. For all their analysis and attempts at mutual understanding, INTPs are infamous for their’ emotional deafness.
When conflict arises, it is often a by-product of the INTP’s penchant for ignoring or internalizing their ‘irrational emotions’ for too long. Unfortunately, the levee of logic that keeps their emotional side in check occasionally breaks down resulting in outbursts they would normally repress. INTPs will do their best to find a logical solution but sometimes the problem is logic itself and the neglect of their partners’ emotional needs. INTPs should try to make themselves available to their partner on an emotional level – if they make this effort, understanding partners will recognize and appreciate the gesture, clumsy though it may be.
All this emotional, and conflict avoidance is geared to free up mental resources, time and energy for the important things that interest them. INTPs spend a vast amount of time in their private inner world filled with substantial imagination, much of which may never be expressed to their partner. However, their creative minds ensure they will rarely be in want for fun ideas to try in their relationship. INTP relationships are rich and rewarding connections and partners who share the Intuitive (N) trait are ideal, along with one or two opposite traits to create variety and balance, but so long as INTPs remember that they are with people who have their own, independent wants and needs, and so long as their partners remember the same of their INTPs, these are long-lasting and satisfying relationships.