The INFJ ENTP Relationship
According to psychologist David Keirsey, INFJ and ENTP are highly compatible in both a romantic relationship and friendship despite their differences function-wise. INFJ is an introvert/feeler who prefers structure, while ENTP is an extravert/thinker who prefers adaptability. It is their mutual preference for intuition (albeit of opposite attitudes) that Keirsey estimates to be the string that ties the knot especially in the case of an INFJ ENTP marriage.
Because of their shared “N”, the INFJ ENTP couple is considered to be ideal for love and friendship. Keirsey believed that types who share the same perceiving preference whether introverted or extraverted, are bound to get along well due to the good communication and understanding this fosters in the relationship. Idealists and rationals get along best with other idealists and rationals and guardians and artisans get along best with other guardians and artisans.
This is the general theory but should by no means discourage from dating any type based on MBTI theory alone. Romantic chemistry involves a lot more than what the MBTI could account for. Factors such as appearance, culture, social pressures, maturity, personal experience and background all play a part. It should not be denied that an ESFJ and INTJ could possibly fall and stay madly in love.
Why INFJ and ENTP belong together
There are a number of things that would make INFJ attracted to ENTP. Keirsey reasoned that ENTPs are the best match for INFJs because of their intuition preference but also for their differences in every other respect including their introvert/extravert dynamic, their feeling/thinking dynamic, and their judging/perceiving dynamic. This speaks to the idea of opposites attract, but do they really? Do INFJ and ENTP get along or is it just a compatibility shibboleth? Here is a look at INFJ and ENTP relationship and 6 reasons why the INFJ and ENTP love match can be great.
1. INFJ and ENTP Are Both Growth-Minded
One of the aspects of INFJ and ENTP compatibility may hinge on their mutual interest in self determination and self-enhancement. INFJs are idealists while ENTPs are enterprisers but both types take an active interest in self improvement. There may exist some areas of contention in the relationship that may lead to an INFJ ENTP clash. However, ENTPs for their part, are likely to be willing to compromise and make a laudable effort to adapt and accommodate some of INFJ’s concerns. An INFJ ENTP fight, for example may arise out of ENTP’s dismissal of INFJ’s feelings or from being too egotistical. It may be that ENTP hurt INFJ with some blunt words,
But once INFJ makes their grievances known to them, the fair-minded ENTP is typically open to improving their behavior for the sake of preserving the union. The INFJ similarly strives to shape their relationships, along with themselves, to become aligned with their personal vision; their ideals. Their perfectionistic tendencies compel them to keep pushing, keep progressing towards their goals and together, the INFJ and ENTP can prove a formidable, symbiotic team.
2. ENTP Can Get INFJ To Try New Things
ENTPs on account of their dominant extraverted intuition, are bound to rate highly on scales of “openness”. They are enterprising and restless and this may contrast with the INFJ’s more reserved and slightly cautious temperament. ENTP can shake things up and pull INFJ out of their comfort zones getting them to engage with the world more and embrace the madness. An INFJ and ENTP friendship dynamic is probably like that of Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker in the Rush Hour movies. ENTP, while being rather laid back, may effectively take the lead in initiating spontaneous fun and interesting opportunities. The INFJ and ENTP romance may benefit from the exciting novelties and experimentation that ENTP is likely to introduce.
3. INFJ Provides Moral Support To ENTP
The INFJ ENTP love story will be bolstered by INFJ’s sensitivity and insight which can really help out an ENTP when they are occasionally demoralized. INFJs love helping others in raising their spirits. They are able to appeal to the heart and emotional needs that ENTP typically overlooks. An INFJ and ENTP love match is likely to be mutually supportive with each person compensating for their respective thinking/feeling differences. ENTPs are very strong minded and well able to surmount emotional setbacks such as relationship breakups or personal failures. However, they may be susceptible to self-destructive and self-sabotaging behavior such as drug abuse or unhinged neuroticism. INFJs can maybe save ENTPs from themselves and provide the support ENTPs need to help keep their priorities in check.
4. INFJ Appreciates the ENTP Quirks
Whether it is an INFJ woman with ENTP man or INFJ guy and ENTP girl, it is likely that what attracts these two together has something to do with their unusual attributes. INFJ likes ENTP at least in part because they are a bit of a rebel. ENTPs often have eccentric qualities that distinguish them from the norm. They steer away from orthodoxy and gravitate towards the path less travelled. They embrace their weirdness and may even accentuate it, but their tertiary Fe allows them to walk the line of absurdity and still be charming about it. INFJ ENTP chemistry is bound to be fostered by the fact that INFJs are fond of unusual people. INFJ doesn’t mind and likely appreciates being around someone who is a bit of an oddball since they themselves can often feel like one.
5. INFJ Admires ENTP’s Mental Dexterity
INFJ ENTP communication is likely to be satisfying for both parties due to their shared intuition preference. They are mutually disinterested in superficial and inane banter and prefer conversations that are rife with novelty, humor and meaningfulness. As a conversation partner, ENTPs are likely to delight the INFJ with their wit and randomness. The INFJ and ENTP interaction is bound to include interesting discussions where their slightly different yet thoughtful perspectives get to be aired out. ENTPs are particularly lively debaters and INFJs may have the hands full when they engage in verbal disputes. But even when INFJ and ENTP conflict in their opinions, INFJ may often concede that ENTP makes good points. While INFJs tend to be quite insightful, they may be impressed by how persuasively an ENTP can argue their positions – sometimes while playing devil’s advocate. ENTPs tend to be verbally crafty and skilled in repartee.
6. ENTP and INFJ Are Both Creative Types
The INFJ ENTP relationship compatibility also has going for it, the fact that ENTPs and INFJs are both highly creative. Even if they are not artistic, their dominant intuition insures that they both love thinking in terms of abstract, novel possibilities with a focus on the future. They are both inclined to be highly imaginative and smart which is something that could be parlayed into a successful business partnership. ENTPs are inventive and INFJs are dreamweavers and so an ENTP and INFJ can form a creative power couple that combines their respective powers of innovation and vision to create a beautiful brainchild. The ENTP INFJ duo is a team that can potentially make each other’s wildest dreams and fantasies become reality.
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9 thoughts on “6 Reasons Why INFJ and ENTP Belong Together”
As an INFJ in love with a truly perfect ENTP I have to admit it did kinda make me feel shitty how many of their strengths were recognized in this article in comparison to us. Makes it seem like we don’t have any, apart from being “dreamweavers” and overall just nice I guess.
For example, why wasn’t there a section about what the ENTP admires about INFJ? What they appreciate about INFJ? In addition to other things, this entire article makes me feel like they might not be a good match afterall, contradictory to its I assume intended purpose.
As an ENTP married to an INFJ, I think it’s very difficult to articulate all the special things they do. I believe INFJs do not get enough recognition of their good qualities because:
1. They spend so much time making others feel seen, heard and accepted.
People don’t realise how much better they feel after being truly listened to and understood. After interacting with an INFJ it’s easy to labour under the misconception that all of those powerful insights and feelings an INFJ helped you uncover, contextualise and articulate were already like that. Consequently people end up using INFJs and not having the humility to acknowledge the extraordinary impact they can have on self-concept.
2. Being with an INFJ requires huge amounts of honesty.
If you are lucky enough to be with an INFJ it will be the most rewarding and life changing thing you’ll experience. However, it requires enormous adaptability. INFJs principles of authenticity, integrity and justice frame the world with a sense of infinite possibility that things can be better. However, INFJs force you to start with yourself. Prejudices, misconceptions, denial, pain and trauma from the past, unhelpful coping skills, toxic friendships, prepare to have all of these things revealed to you. Once you have been taken out of ignorance you have no option but to confront and change your choice patterns. This is demanding and at times relentless. However, the INFJ pushes no one harder than themselves. This is something I admire and find completely invigorating. It’s not for everyone though.
3. INFJs work on the borders of the self.
They see the seams, the lies, the masks we all wear to cope with life. This is intimidating. People are unnerved by INFJs insights and also their enormous compassion and kindness. We live in an unkind and often cruel world. It’s hard to accept the gifts INFJs can give. At times it’s easier to reject them rather than recognise how much pain your living with. I think this might be why the INFJ feels alienated sometimes.
Hope that gives you an idea that INFJs are appreciated!
Thank you Will!
Thank you for posting that, Will. That was pretty thorough and insightful.
This is amazing, thanks
Thank you Ivona, for asking the question. I’m the ENTP in my pair. I thought the article was pretty accurate, flattering and all but I noticed the unevenness as well.
Thanks also to Will, for the great response. Its so hard to describe Ni but did a great job. INFJ can be like keys for me that open areas I didn’t know I had (and I am well examined by now!) and vice versa.. It can be a bit disconcerting even.
Everything that we are is affected by others, really. Our nature is one of social primates. We can be introverts and hide in a cave for our lifetime and that still won’t change. Our brains have social mirroring mechanisms, down to mirror neurons, that help us represent each other. This is how we are built by evolution.
A good relationship is like a clean mirror. It doesn’t distort. It doesn’t consume. So many of view others to make up for a feeling of incompleteness. So many of us are broken. We distort ourselves or what we reflect to others, or they distort back… hurting people and relationships.
In a healthy relationship between these two types, it can be very hard to explain the special role of the INFJ. The feeling I have when I look into the eyes of the INFJ I love Is the purest mirror. I can see if I have hurt him, I can’t do that to him or to us. I can see if I’m being weak or disappointing. It’s a pure reflection of myself and how it affects him. After years of noisy signals you get from peoples eyes, it’s hard to explain the quality of that and how that makes you into the best version of you. Or at least to want to try.
And you know, I’d like to think that we are clear and honest mirrors back to the INFJ in our own way, in addition to all the clowning around.
The mirror is not a passive participant – it took millions of years of evolution, the kind I am talking about – its qualities are critical – but also, might at some level be impossible to be described, only felt, known…
– A rational in love 😉
It’s good see that things are working out between you guys .
I usually think that this pairing favours the reverse gender considering societal expectations and also the fact that ENTP women usually prefer INTJ over INFJ guys.
Am happy to hear that you guys are doing well..
If you don’t mind i would like to know how long you guys have been together
Wow. That was beautifully done. Thank you so much. It truly is rare to see someone so accurately describe this. In addition to being appreciative, you also demonstrate a high capacity for reflective introspection. That is something that must be cultivated very deeply. It is quite difficult. I experienced enantiodromia following Psychic Death in 2018, causing seemingly cataclysmic short-term consequences. However, it’s difficult to deny the utility of such experiences. It’s been a rough ride at times.