When people try to butter you up, does your heart melt or do you look at them sideways? Here is brief look at how each MBTI personality is likely to react to compliments.
INFJ appreciates compliments, but flattery can make them feel awkward and embarrassed. INFJs may often downplay their contributions or deflect from them a bit out of modesty. They try not to let praise and acclaim from others go to their heads because words both good and bad can have such a strong impact on their emotions. INFJs take special pleasure in receiving positive feedback because it affirms to them that what they’re doing matters and this can energize them to push harder and do more.
INFPs will take just about any positive affirmation from others they can get. Compliments and other positive sentiments given to them can quickly warm their heart and encourage them to come out of their social shell. It’s easy for INFPs to feel beleaguered and unappreciated for who they are. They desire to assert their uniqueness but sometimes this leads others to view them as arrogant as if they’re trying to be better than everyone else. INFPs just prefer novelty and to be able to express their personal truth and so they deeply appreciate it when other people understand and value that.
INTJs enjoy a little validation through compliments but are likely to take them with a grain of salt. When people compliment them, INTJs are likely to read into their motives wondering what their angle might be. INTJs are probably highly resistant to anyone’s attempts at buttering them up or manipulating them by stroking their ego. They appreciate compliments on their accomplishments and abilities but may feel terribly awkward in response to flattery about their appearance or physical features.
INTP tries not to place too much importance on what people think of them because ultimately INTPs rely on their own judgment and principles. When people pay sincere compliments to INTP, especially regarding things in which INTP prides themselves, it can make them blush and feel a bit validated. INTPs appreciate this, but overall they will likely try to treat both criticism and compliments with a similar regard and not be especially influenced by them one way or another.
ENFJs are pretty modest and self-effacing and may respond to compliments by downplaying or deflecting them in a graceful and humorous way. They try to live up to their personal standards and so compliments help affirm to them that they are doing a good job and makes them feel worthy and appreciated. ENFJs may often deflect compliments onto someone else and avoid taking all the credit. They like to spread the love and emphasize the contributions of others as well as their own.
Compliments mean a lot to ENFP although they may downplay how much. When ENFPs receive compliments, they can get a little embarrassed and their initial response may be to reciprocate and say something nice in return. ENFPs are likely to be admired by many for their positivity and humor but they may often not realize how loved they truly are. ENFPs can get down on themselves and sometimes, validation from others can be just what they need to remind them of what makes them wonderful.
ENTJs take compliments in stride but don’t particularly rely on or need them. They have their own agenda and the value of what they do is mostly confirmed to them by the results and fruits of their labor. Nevertheless, they enjoy being admired and receiving credit for their greatness. When complimented, an ENTJ may feel obliged to explain or elaborate on details about whatever it is they are receiving compliments for and they may be interested in hearing what that person thinks about other things.
ENTPs take compliments as an ice breaker that invite them to ramble about any number of other things. ENTPs tend to think that they’re hot stuff already and so a compliment payed to them will likely be accepted unabashedly. ENTPs are likely to receive compliments for their knack for making clever and timely quips and as well as their overall interesting and unconventional personality. Compliments may have the effect of pumping their ego with steroids at which point their stream of thoughts may take off like a runaway train.
ESTJs have little trouble taking the credit they think they deserve and they invest a significant amount of time and effort into becoming a respected and upstanding member of whatever group they associate with. Because they are often ambitious and image conscious, ESTJs may place high importance on what others think of them. Compliments may be a welcome signal of their competence and value to others and so ESTJs may take great pride in the good words they receive from others.
ISTJ likely receives compliments on their sense of responsibility and reliability. ISTJs are generally quiet and modest. When they receive compliments about their work and personal hobbies, they are likely to take it with honor and pride. Compliments about anything else may make them feel awkward and embarrassed. ISTJs may often take their dutiful and hardworking nature for granted since it is just the way they are built but being appreciated for it can motivate them to do even better.
ISFJs tend to be modest but they crave validation and appreciation from people. They are very selfless and do much in the service of others without seeking any thanks and so any recognition or tokens of appreciation given to them will mean a lot. A meaningful expression of gratitude will melt ISFJ’s heart and make their helpful efforts and diligence feel all the more worthwhile. Afterwards, ISFJs will be motivated to do even more and may put special care into what they do for those appreciative people.
ESFJs desire validation and social acceptance and any compliment they receive will likely be welcomed. They tend to take flattery at face value without suspicion of a person’s motives for doing so. ESFJs in turn are quite generous in paying compliments to others as they generally feel it is important to positively reinforce good behavior and effort. They try to make everyone feel appreciated and they in turn appreciate when others acknowledge ESFJ’s value and contributions.
Flattery will get you everywhere with an ESFP as they love to hear about themselves. Most ESFPs are probably used to receiving flattering comments and may feel slighted when they don’t get enough of them. A positive remark about them can light their spirits up and they generally deserve the recognition but sometimes it can go to their heads. More often though, it just motivates them to show off and be even more magnetic, charming and affectionate in return.
ESTPs enjoy having their ego stroked like a spoiled house cat. Whatever compliment you pay to them, they will likely agree with it and then elaborate on other awesome things about them that they expect you will be impressed by. Complimenting an ESTP is probably a very quick way of getting their attention as they love the acknowledgement and will probably be unabashed in accepting credit for their abilities, attributes and accomplishments.
ISFPs may be slightly distrustful of the sincerity of compliments they receive. Because they tend to be hard on themselves, other people’s compliments may have little sway over their own views and opinions. Despite this, they nonetheless express gratitude for what they may regard as a friendly gesture with well meaning intentions.
When they receive compliments, ISTPs typically are not inclined to gush or blush about it. They may hesitate in how to respond because they are more accustomed to and comfortable with criticism. ISTPs do not give out compliments often unless they really mean it. If possible, they would prefer receiving compliments in the form of a message they can read in private because it is very awkward for them in person.
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