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How Each Myers-Briggs Type Behaves When Upset

The MBTI Types When They are Upset

Everyone gets down in the dumps from time to time, but coping mechanisms may differ from person to person. Here is a look at how each MBTI personality type may deal with their emotional distress.


When INFJs are upset, they get emotional and moody and may become overly critical and snippy. INFJs can often become upset due to their propensity for soaking up and internalizing the emotions of those around them both positive and negative. Other people’s bad vibes and emotional baggage can easily infect and poison the INFJ’s psychological well. INFJs are often willing to hear about other people’s problems but try not to inconvenience them with theirs. They may sulk and wallow a bit in self pity perhaps with some sad music or seek reassurance and affection from loved ones.


When upset, INFPs emotional distress is likely to disrupt their sleep and eating habits. They can become very touchy and avoidant of anything that brings them discomfort. Emotional outbursts are likely and they may become defiant and uncooperative. When something is really bothering them, INFPs will lose enthusiasm and withdraw from others. Although they would desire someone to understand them and offer support, the INFP may generally keep what’s bugging them under wraps and try to distract themselves by busying themselves with some project.


INTJs tend not to show what they are feeling. When upset, INTJs will likely withdraw and become more quiet than usual. They will likely go for a walk to blow off some steam and gather their thoughts. Other people may not even notice anything is wrong since INTJs are so often very stoic and private about what they feel. When in a state of malcontent they can become testy and cold-hearted. INTJs typically don’t seek advice or counsel from others and prefer instead to assess their issues privately until they can reach a verdict of their own accord.


When upset, INTPs tend to ignore things that get under their skin until it reaches a boiling point. They become more passive aggressive and sarcastic but will hardly admit to having a problem. Although INTPs have little reservations about engaging in litigious debates over ideas and views, they are less comfortable with conflicts in which their emotions are involved. Because they hold so much inside, they can develop an unhealthy anger that only gets worse because they are reluctant to acknowledge their emotions. When upset, INTPs can dwell obsessively on picking apart what is bothering them and become intellectually combative and self righteous towards others in the process.


When upset, ENFJs can be very hard on themselves and often feel somehow responsible for what goes wrong. They become inflexible and increasingly critical towards others as well and become uncharacteristically harsh. Some space and time away from people is generally what they need although they may not do themselves such a favor. Because of their nature, they are inclined to try and hang tough and convince themselves that everything is okay and that they have the power to get through just fine. Only their closest friends and confidantes will ever get to know the inner struggles that lay beneath the ENFJ’s sunny disposition.


When upset or saddened, ENFP may continue to be present and engaging but mentally they will be noticeably distant and disengaged. They become more distracted but may go out of their way to make it seem like everything is okay to avoid detection. They may convey emotions only through their eyes but in their lives will show signs of forgetfulness, negligence, and worry. They can become obsessive and picky and prone to bouts of depression. They may also get confrontational in response to criticism and may unleash the ENFP bitch slap in a state of self-righteous indignation.


When upset, the ENTJ may become volatile and impatient. It will be difficult for them to listen to anyone for very long and they may become very domineering and intimidating. Diplomacy may fall to the wayside when they are not happy and the ENTJ may cut straight to the point in setting about how to fix their situation. They typically do not wallow in despair and self pity as it is not a productive use of their time as far as they’re concerned. The ENTJ may feel vulnerable and fearful but will be resolved in their effort to get themselves and their lives back under control.


When upset, ENTP can lash out and will seek out like minded individuals to commiserate with them. They want someone with whom they can vent their anger and frustration with lengthy and loquacious diatribes. When they have been hurt or upset by someone, the ENTP can become especially frank and insensitive towards others. They may try to busy themselves with activities to distract from their pain or umbrage or simply sink into a depression. The ENTP would benefit by taking time to slow down and reflect calmly on what bothers them and share this with an objective listener who can help them focus on what’s most important and sort it out.


When upset, ISFJ withdraws becoming more quiet than usual and may harbor much of their negative feelings inside. They may shrink away from socializing and immerse themselves in mindless cleaning and organizing to distract from their issues. When upset, they may indulge in sensual delights, sometimes to excess. ISFJs take solace in words of encouragement from trusted authority figures and loved ones. It also makes them feel better to help others and be extra nice to them. When upset, ISFJs can slip into some erratic and uncharacteristic behavior and will sometimes need support and reassurance from others to help them heal and restore balance in themselves.


When upset, an ISTJ can become flustered and have a nervous breakdown. They may cope by trying to rationalize and convince themselves that things aren’t so bad. They will distract themselves with work or reading and may become more strident and critical of disorder and inefficiency. They withdraw emotionally and focus on what they can do to make things better so that they can feel a sense of control over their situation. They may resort to micromanaging their affairs and the excessive scheduling out of tasks with a sense of panicked or aggressive urgency.


When upset, the ESFJ may withdraw from their usually personable self and become more tentative. They my feel inadequate and insecure and may respond by criticizing others over petty and trivial matters. When upset, the ESFJ may feel emotionally vulnerable and in need of some consolation and support from the people they value most. They may become extra clingy and emotionally needy. They may also respond by seeking out professional counsel and advice.


When upset the ESTJ may become super judgmental and peremptory towards others and take out their frustration on them. Their patience and tolerance goes down the toilet and they can be very difficult to be around. They try to take the bull by the horns so to speak so as to make things right again but in the process they may trample over the sensitivities of others who fail to keep up or get with the program. ESTJ is highly pragmatic but may have a tendency to deal with their emotional turmoil using superficial and ineffective means.


When they are upset, ISFPs may suddenly become bossy and judgemental of others abilities and competency. They may become hypersensitive to slights both real and imagined. ISFPs may have a tendency to put off and procrastinate anything that may add to their emotional distress including mundane routine tasks that they abhor. The ISFP may also try to drown out the negative feelings with escapism and mindless thrill seeking. They might even try to “self medicate” with mind altering substances. Ideally, ISFPs may simply take time to relax and remove themselves from the source of their distress so they can reflect and meditate.


When they are upset, the ISTP will likely withdraw and become more quiet and detached from others. They tend not to express what is bugging them preferring instead to reflect and figure things out for themselves, perhaps while doing things they enjoy. When they are upset, the normally cool headed and mild ISTP can become temperamental and easily triggered into an emotional outburst. They may feel insecure and try to overcompensate by ramping their productivity and sense of self worth through what they can do and achieve.


When they are upset, ESFPs may become a trainwreck and shut others out and become difficult to work with. They will likely want someone with whom they can talk about their problems and vent or may avoid thinking about their problems altogether. They may also engage in thrill seeking and indulgent and sometimes reckless behavior depending on how distraught they are. They want to feel good and will do whatever they can to take their minds off of whatever is dragging them down. They will be extra sensitive to criticism and view negativity from others as an attack against which they will rebel with force.


When they are upset, ESTPs may sulk and become very bruque with others. They may feel beleaguered, hypersensitive to criticism and their conversations with people may become bitter and laced with insults both explicit and implicit.They may go on the offensive and attempt to make others see things from their perspective and validate their grievances. ESTPs may also go off on their own to blow off steam and just surround themselves with the things they love that make them feel better.

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