The following are only a few of the ways in which the Extraverted Feeling (Fe) function of a person is misplaced and/or misdirected:
– Excessive attachment; inability to let go of others who have long ceased to be (or want to be) connected to them.
– Excessive possessiveness; seeing others as extensions of themselves and feeling entitled to limit and to shape them to their own will, without much or any concern for what others truly want and need.
– Excessive protection; keeping others from making decisions on their own and from living their own experiences by instilling worries and fear where they’re not due.
– Lack of boundaries; meddling, intruding, giving little to no space or privacy – no matter how uncomfortable they’re making others.
– Overextended service; doing too much “for others” when it was not asked of them, when they were clearly asked to stop (several times) – and then resenting others for it and expecting and demanding in return.
– Overbearing pride; believing themselves to be superior and more deserving of validation on the sole basis of having better “social skills.”
– Condescension; believing they know better what’s best for others when, in fact, they don’t – and forcing their views onto others.
– Projection; assuming they understand others when, in reality, they’re only attributing their own motives and intentions to others.
– Falsehood for unmerited inclusion; tactically lying and delivering half-truths with the intent to persuade and convince themselves and others of someone’s “goodness.”
– Falsehood for unmerited exclusion; tactically lying and delivering half-truths with the intent to persuade and convince themselves and others of someone’s “badness.”