You have only one life to live and what you get out of it largely depends on your ability to grow and develop as a person. Each of us has a unique story and life path to follow and along the way will come challenges that reveal our strengths and expose our weaknesses. Using the MBTI, we can learn to recognize aspects of our personality that are underdeveloped and then work to improve them. Recognizing your cognitive weak points is the first step in fortifying them but you can also take some solace knowing that other people with your MBTI type share your struggle. Here is a look at some of the areas in which each MBTI personality type can focus on improving to be the best they can be.
ESTP Personal Growth
Many ESTPs can become morose or even antagonistic in situations offering little promise of advantage or the possibility to “do something.” They may be manipulative, taking advantage of other people’s weaknesses for their own gain and can be unwilling or unable to plan anything in advance themselves, or to follow other’s careful plans. Without challenges of their own, they may become focused on the behavior of others, insisting that they live up to what the ESTP views as the standard level of accomplishment.
ESTPs can have a tendency toward misattributing meaning
when exploring and discussing confusing topics that are important to them. They may have difficulty maintaining employment for any length of time, losing credibility with potential employers or clients due to job hopping. They have difficulty seeing that their actions have wider or longer term implications and difficulty understanding what makes good choices existentially meaningful and significant.
ESTPs can be overconfident
of their own cunning or ability, ignoring problems which eventually catch up with them on their blind side. They tend to overlook personal needs/priorities because of excessive attention paid to external events and in relationship situations may be overbearing, demanding and/or uncaring of the feelings of their partner. They may become so engrossed in challenging activities that they lose all sense of proportion, neglecting themselves and their relationships.
When alone or in reduced circumstances
ESTPs may be subject to dark or morbid feelings about themselves. They have trouble grasping metaphorical, symbolic, or hidden meanings. They can use Ni consciously to reflect on goals and vision for the future and also to support Se by understanding how things/experiences are interconnected in meaningful ways. They may need to learn the value of structure and routine in producing the most desirable outcomes but when they feel life has become too structured or routine they should do something fun but also productive to shake things up.
Ask yourself what you want from a long term relationship. Now turn this around and see how your requirements compare with others. Are you being realistic? Have you forgotten to include the needs of others in your ideal relationship? Are you afraid of the things you need to offer, or are you just afraid that in offering them you will lose something?
Alwas remember, that a relationship which adds to your personal skills and life is a valuable one, while a relationship which limits your ability to be yourself is not going to work. Now try to see how your own demands and needs might add to another, and what they might take away from them.
Don’t be afraid of letting your feelings show, even if they frighten you for their weakness or showing your own vulnerability. More often than not, such honesty is the beginning of the kind of relationship that can lead you to grow.
Your best partner is going to be the one who fills your private space, your thinking space, as well as your senses. Try to talk to others about what you think. Discover yourself in your thoughts and let relationships grow through your letting the other person into your inner world. Discuss your fears and limits and discover the strength available to you from the support of another who may have what you need.
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Jhoon is a writer and artist who likes to study astrology and psychology. Astroligion.com was launched in 2016 with a focus on astrology but has since expanded to include the MBTI and other topics. This site has provided Jhoon a great incentive to research and learn more about many subjects of personal interest.