INTJ ESFJ Compatibility
INTJ and ESFJ is an odd pair with some hurdles to clear. It could work if they really love one another but from a type theory standpoint, they are very incongruent. The ESFJ is very people-friendly, and cheerful and they are able to get along well with all types of people so long as they are nice and decent human beings. INTJs who are overly stand-offish or anti-social may strike the ESFJ as a jerk. Many ESFJs may not understand introverts very well and may interpret INTJ behavior as rude or snobbish until they get to know them.
Furthermore, ESFJs are interested in upholding traditions and being with people. They do not like to be alone because while the INTJ thrives in solitude, the ESFJ withers like a daisy in the desert when they have no one to talk to. This makes them a little needy and clingy; something the INTJ may find annoying. In addition to that, ESFJ people are not big on theories and deep intellectual talk. INTJ types tend to have highly developed vocabularies and their style of communication is likely to leave the ESFJ a little flummoxed from time to time. INTJs generally have no interest in gossip (maybe sometimes) but keeping up with the Jones’ is not their thing and the ESFJ is not down with that.
ESFJs are very family oriented however and they can provide some of the warmth and feeling that the INTJ lacks in their life. Both types take their roles and professions seriously and together they can make an excellent domestic team that can build a successful and stable family.
INTJ ESFJ Relationship Problems
ESFJs are not known to take criticism particularly well. Their desire for harmony makes them averse to conflict and this may pose a problem if (or when) the INTJ becomes critical of them. It is likely that the INTJ will take issue with what they view as a lack of substance from the ESFJ and they may feel unsatisfied with the content and quality of their exchanges with them. INTJ may however appreciate the understanding and compassion displayed by the ESFJ and may even admire their capacity for giving and their heartfelt concern for people.
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