INTP
- In trying to explain how they got from A to B they may condescendingly simplify things to the point of insult or give up with a dismissive “never mind”.
- Delaying the completion of their work indefinitely with constant revisions, sometimes even quitting before they ever begin.
- Setting aside their partners’ feelings, and their own, for far too long.
- Dressing oddly/shabbily, neglecting personal hygiene and carry a distinctive smell that they do not realize they exude.
- Emotionally inattentive. May need reminders to pay attention to their relationships and family life.
- Being rather messy and feel little need to maintain a clean work space to study.
- Not following instructions or finishing tasks
- Showing off their pithiness instead of using plain language that would be better understood.
- Passive-aggressive tendencies like not answering the phone or giving the silent treatment.
- While busy chewing their mental cud, they don’t pay much attention to external details.
- Tendency to poke holes in other’s faulty logic with an emphasis on clarity and precise word use. Feel honor bound to correct other’s mistaken ideas.
INTJ
- Being too controlling of others and trying to shape them according to their ideals.
- Closing themselves off to the opinions of those they believe to be intellectually inferior.
- Insensitive and tactless in making their opinions of others all too clear.
- Unnecessarily saying harmful and distorted things.
- Delusional and foolish overestimation of their abilities.
- Neurotic level of perfectionism that runs others away.
- Reluctance in accepting blame.
- Tend to blame others for misunderstanding them rather than evaluate their own difficulty expressing themselves.
- Tendency to over-analyze and be judgmental, as well as arrogant.
- Viewing emotions as being for the weak.
- Over-delegating and entitlement; expecting and demanding from others to take care of tasks they could and should handle themselves.
- Looking down on and rejecting others based solely on perceived and imagined status.
ENTP
- Turning everything into an object for debate.
- Asking probing and personal questions that make others feel uncomfortable.
- Purposely lying for their own amusement.
- Being impersistent and abandoning things they’ve started.
- Prodding and pushing people’s buttons just to see what they’ll do.
- Blurting out random things without having thought them through first.
- Can be insensitive and unintentionally hurt others’ feelings.
- Being wishy-washy and frequently changing their minds; backing out of commitments at the last moment.
ENTJ
- Extreme tunnel vision.
- Being too controlling of others and trying to shape them according to their ideals.
- Closing themselves off to the opinions of those they believe to be intellectually inferior.
- Insensitive and tactless in making their opinions of others all too clear.
- Unnecessarily saying harmful and distorted things.
- Delusional and foolish overconfidence in their abilities.
- Neurotic level of perfectionism that runs others away.
- Tendency to over-analyze and be judgmental, as well as arrogant.
- Can be a “control-freak,” always wanting to be in charge
- Being unreceptive to other’s opinions and being dead-set on having their way.
- Being anal retentive and perfectionistic and yelling at others when under stress.
INFP
- Can get too sensitive over things that aren’t a big deal but can’t really help feeling hurt or sad.
- Being insecure and acting childishly.
- Wallowing in their own self-pity and feeling sorry for themselves.
- Sarcasm and passive aggressive behavior.
- Sudden mood swings that catches others off guard.
- When stressed, may be prone to emotional outbursts.
- Sucking the fun out of everything when they’re in a foul mood.
- Emotional baggage.
- More concerned with the way things make them feel than in making rational arguments and can often appear irrational and illogical.
- In group situations, may have a “control” problem where they want to take over everything because group members’ standards often aren’t as high as theirs.
INFJ
- Whining if things don’t go their way; if they don’t feel appreciated.
- Tendency to believe they’re always right and dismiss/ignore other peoples’ opinions, even before fully hearing them out.
- Prone to petty acts of revenge for insignificant sleights.
- Hypersensitive to criticism.
- Walling off part of themselves and often don’t let others in, even if they are trustworthy and wouldn’t hurt them.
- If hurt too many times by someone any hope for forgiveness will be denied – forever.
- Their arguments essentially boil down to whether something is “good or bad” and it is right “just because.”
- Can become “cold-hearted bastards” and “ice queens”.
- Take forever to complete certain tasks in an attempt to make it perfect.
- Not returning phone calls.
- Can get carried away with self-righteous outrage when an “injustice” has been committed.
- They hold grudges for long periods of time.
- Pretending to listen and consider alternatives when in reality they’ve already made up their minds.
- Believing they understand you better than you understand yourself.
- Seem to care more about formality than content. ie. it’s about how you ask them, not your intention.
ENFP
- Can, at times, be overly anxious and worrisome
- Being impulsive and capricious.
- Their enthusiasm may cause them to be unrealistic.
- Takes criticism poorly.
- Tendency to not follow through on projects, usually because they get excited about a new project and abandon the first for the second – this may become a problematic cycle
- May be overly concerned with being liked.
- Always seeing the possibility of what could be often causes them become bored with what actually is.
- Impatient and strongly driven to blindly pursue every interesting or promising idea/path that one imagines will lead to “success” as measured by external standards.
- Prone to projecting personal inadequacies onto others.
- Prone to being argumentative, domineering, arrogant, caustic, jealous, envious, or territorial; tendency to demand agreement/approval from others or streamroll people who disagree.
ENFJ
- Believing themselves to be superior and more deserving of validation on the sole basis of having better “social skills.”
- Meddling, intruding, giving little to no space or privacy – no matter how uncomfortable they’re making others.
- Doing too much “for others” when it was not asked of them, when they were clearly asked to stop (several times) – and then resenting others for it and expecting and demanding in return.
- Tendency to act as if they know so much about what you’re talking about, even if they don’t.
- Inability to let go of others who have long ceased to be (or want to be) connected to them.
- Keeping others from making decisions on their own and from living their own experiences by instilling worries and fear where they’re not due.
- Believing they know better what’s best for others when, in fact, they don’t – and forcing their views onto others.
- Whining when things don’t go their way, if they don’t feel appreciated.
ISFJ
- Expecting and demanding more consistency than is reasonable.
- Being closed off to anything new or different.
- Incessantly worry about everything, making simple things seem overly complicated.
- Unwilling to acknowledge or change faulty ideas/assumptions (can’t admit to being wrong);
- Very intolerant and vulnerable to conflicts and criticism.
- Need positive feedback and may become discouraged or depressed if they do not receive it.
- Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others’ needs.
- Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past.
- Can be argumentative and prone to blunt verbal retorts or attacks or blame.
- Refusing to listen to other perspectives and only accepts others when they agree.
ISTJ
- Such perfectionists and more than a bit controlling — if you don’t do things their way, you are doing things wrong.
- Can be know-it-alls.
- Tendency to be extremely judgmental.
- Can be cheap/stingy.
- Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past.
- Easily hurt by criticism or rejection yet unwilling to acknowledge being hurt.
- Ignoring suggestions and reluctant in changing their minds.
- Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behavior.
- Misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none.
ESFJ
- Extensive self-deprecation. Playing the victim card.
- Doing too much “for others” when it was not asked of them, when they were clearly asked to stop (several times) – and then resenting others for it and expecting and demanding in return.
- Assuming they understand others when, in reality, they’re only attributing their own motives and intentions to others.
- Believing they know better what’s best for others when, in fact, they don’t – and forcing their views onto others.
- Meddling, intruding, giving little to no space or privacy – no matter how uncomfortable they’re making others.
- Believing themselves to be superior and more deserving of validation on the sole basis of having better “social skills.”
- Schmoozing and gossiping about others.
- Keeping others from making decisions on their own and from living their own experiences by instilling worries and fear where they’re not due.
- Being manipulative to get what they want out of people.
- Pointing out the obvious and making gratuitous remarks.
- Being two-faced and disingenuous.
- Tendency to act as if they know so much about what you’re talking about, even if they don’t.
- Exaggerating their contribution to others and making humble brags.
- Being judgmental of others who don’t share enthusiasm or interest for what they enjoy.
- Virtue signalling and faking passion for whatever seems popular. A bandwagon groupie.
- Being overly dependent especially in relationships.
ESTJ
- Can be extremely judgmental
- Being stubborn, inflexible, unreasonable, and overly rigid.
- Tend to believe they’re always right.
- Tendency to be bossy.
- Impatient with sloppiness and inefficiency
- Can be insensitive and inadvertently hurt others
- Resists change.
- Have zero patience and no tolerance for those who do not share their values/beliefs
- Can be very demanding and critical.
- Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists.
- Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things.
- Prone to being pessimistic and negative, often imagines or expects the worst possibilities.
- Deflects criticism or makes excuses for mistakes and failures.
- Micromanages situations and tries to maintain a sense of control with the unconscious intent of repressing internal feelings of instability or insecurity.
ISFP
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Being easily and visibly displeased by anything less than “perfect” according to their own personal values.
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Being self centered and personally concerned with only themselves to the point of egotism and conceitedness.
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Inflated sense of uniqueness.
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Projection assuming they understand others when, in reality, they’re only attributing their own motives and intentions to others.
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Trying to bend and twist perceptions to make the wrong seem right.
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Wallowing in self pity for extended periods of time.
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Cannot seem to trust in anyone or anything.
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Tends to obsess about the past or future and ignore present facts.
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Being stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause.
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Childish and/or selfish behavior.
ISTP
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May avoid and ignore problems.
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Tends to obsess about the past or future and ignore present facts.
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Tendency to believe in mystical “signs” or intuitive “connections” that don’t really exist.
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Tend to have difficulty with long-term commitments
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Tendency to hold back part of themselves and be overly private
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May intentionally stir things up to create the excitement they long for
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Tend to get bored easily
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Are often rule-breakers– do not necessarily respect or abide by the rules of the “system” (can be positive and negative)
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Not naturally in tune with how they affect others.
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Cannot seem to trust in anyone or anything.
ESFP
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Prone to projecting personal inadequacies onto others.
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Being argumentative, domineering, arrogant, caustic, jealous, envious, or territorial.
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Tendency to demand agreement/approval from others or streamroll people who disagree.
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Tendency towards immaturity.
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Can be reckless/frivolous with money.
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Being over-dramatic
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May be materialistic and superficial.
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Often do not handle criticism well – tendency to take things very personally
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Tendency to ignore or try to escape from conflict rather than deal with it
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Always excited by something new and may frequently change partners or be unfaithful.
ESTP
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Needs constant agreement from others.
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Cannot handle direct disagreement or criticism well; tends to feel unappreciated by others/society.
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Seeks affirmation or admiration by dominating or manipulating social situations.
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Unaware of own flaws/limitations.
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Engaging in emotional pandering or showing off things like status, style, achievements, talents/skills, or material wealth.
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May not realize or even care about the effect their words have on others
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Can be bossy and somewhat unscrupulous when it comes to getting what they want.
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May fall into trap of ignoring, rather solving their problems
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May get bored easily and abandon relationships quickly once/if they become bored.
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Though great at getting things started, they often struggle with following through.
